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MFP 279: MPF 279: What do Families Need? Interview with Archbishop Naumann

Most of us rarely have an opportunity to sit down and talk to a priest, let alone a bishop!  We were so blessed to have a conversation with not just a bishop, but an archbishop and one who loves the Lord, loves families, and who leads with the heart of a shepherd.  Join us as we talk to Archbishop Naumann of Kansas City who shares his story of growing up without a father and how his mother and family gave him the stability and security he needed to flourish and become the man God called him to be.  He provides insights to families in our conversation along with a good dose of humor and practical encouragement.

 

Key Takeaways

  • Family stability and security are essential for children to flourish and fulfill their God-given potential, as Archbishop Naumann’s own upbringing exemplifies.

  • Archbishop Naumann emphasizes the importance of love, faith, and commitment within families as foundational elements for building strong communities and societies.

  • Practical encouragement and humor are valuable tools in navigating the challenges and joys of family life, as shared by Archbishop Naumann during the conversation.

 

Couple Discussion Questions

  1. How can we emulate the stability and security that Archbishop Naumann experienced in his upbringing within our own family dynamic?

  2. In what ways can we prioritize love, faith, and commitment within our family to strengthen our bonds and contribute positively to our community?

  3. How can we incorporate humor and practical encouragement into our family life to navigate challenges and foster a spirit of joy and resilience?

  4. Reflecting on Archbishop Naumann’s insights, what changes or adjustments can we make to our family routines or habits to better reflect our values and priorities?

  5. What lessons or inspirations can we take from Archbishop Naumann’s story to enhance our own journey as spouses and parents?

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MFP 278: Conversations with Kids

In this episode, Mike and Alicia Hernon explore the transformative impact of conversations with children. They emphasize the importance of fostering a family culture centered around meaningful dialogue.

From toddlers to teens, discover practical strategies for nurturing curiosity, understanding, and mutual respect within the parent-child relationship. Don’t miss out on this engaging discussion that highlights the profound influence of conversations in shaping both children and parents alike.

 

Key Takeaways

  • Conversations form your children, but more importantly, it forms YOU
  • Kids will not always remember what you said, they will remember how they felt. 
  • Conversations should be different depending on the age of the child
  • Conversations should be part of your family culture—how the conversations happen, when they happen, and what you talk about. 

 

Couple Discussion Questions

  1. On a scale of 1-10 how good are we at talking with our kids?  How can we improve? 
  2. What is the most difficult part of talking with the kids? How can I get over this? 
  3. What assumptions do I make when I am talking to my children?  
  4. What are some topics my children would like to talk about?

 

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MFP 277: MPF 277: Girl Power! An interview with the Given Institute

“Thank you, every woman, for the simple fact of being a woman! Through the insight which is so much a part of your womanhood you enrich the world’s understanding and help to make human relations more honest and authentic.”

John Paul II, Letter to Women

Women have particular gifts to bring to the world which were identified by John Paul II as the “genius of women”.  The Given Institute was created by religious superiors of the major orders in the United States and works with young women in all states of life to help them realize that they are gift, work to discover their unique giftedness and then make a plan to bring those gifts to the world.  In this podcast, we discuss these topics with Michelle Hilleart, their Executive Director who is  passionate about the need for women to know their own dignity and worth.  There are so many lies and confusing messages being given to young women today and these messages are preventing them from not just being who they were created to be, but also preventing them from knowing how they were created.  Listen in to hear about what REAL “girl power” is! 

 

Key Takeaways

  • John Paul II identified the “genius of women” as receptivity, sensitivity, generosity, and maternity.

  • Every woman is called to be a spiritual mother – whether she is a natural mother, single woman, or consecrated woman.  

  • Every woman is called and gifted and those gifts begin to grow when a woman knows who she is as a daughter of God. 

  • Once we know what those gifts are we should then create an “action plan” to bring those unique gifts to the world. 

 

Couple Discussion Questions

  1. Do I recognize my dignity as a daughter of God? 

  2. What are the gifts that are uniquely mine? 

  3. How can I develop those gifts and bring them to the people around me?

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MFP 276: MPF 276: Why are Boys so Aggressive?

“It’s our experience that parents who don’t allow their children to play with weapons have little boys who will chew their toast into the shape of a gun”

“Hello, I wanted to ask a question in regard to violent play for a toddler. My 4 year old boy is obsessed with all types of toy swords, lasers, etc. Any suggestions on how to manage it in a way that lets him explore but also places limits on it?”  

This question came from a listener who is a mom of a normal boy!  But often this type of behavior catches parents unaware.  Our culture gives so many confusing messages to boys in the world.  Sometimes the behavior of little boys can be surprising or even shocking to moms who aren’t used to rough and tumble play.  But the beauty of boys is that they are made for this!  And playing is how they learn to make sense of the world around them, handle conflicting emotions and learn to relate in a healthy way to other boys.  In this podcast, we tackle the issue head on with some funny stories and practical advice.  We also discuss some of the psychology behind the emotional life of boys and what parents need to do to keep their boys well-adjusted and loved.  In the end we have tips for you on how to teach your boy to use his body in a way that respects himself and others.

 

Key Takeaways

  • Violent play in young boys is natural and when it comes from within their own mind (not from images introduced to them) it is not just harmless, but important to allow. 

  • Boys work out their emotions physically. The verbal and emotional parts of their brain are not hard wired as girls’ are. 

  • Getting your boys comfortable and confident in their bodies is essential for their emotional and mental health.

  • Boy’s emotions are just as present and as deep as girls are. They are just expressed differently and need to be responded to differently.

 

Couple Discussion Questions

  1. What do I find hardest about my boys?

  2. How can we respect the way they are made?

 

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MFP 275: Where do Bishops Come From? An interview with Bishop Joseph Coffey

Join Mike and Alicia Hernon on this enlightening episode of the Messy Family Podcast as they sit down for an insightful interview with Bishop Joseph Coffey of the Archdiocese of the Military (United States). Together, they explore the intriguing question, “Where do Bishops Come From?” and delve into Bishop Coffey’s personal journey of faith, discernment, and leadership within the Catholic Church.

With candor and wisdom, Bishop Coffey shares his unique perspective on the role of bishops in today’s world and offers valuable insights into the formation and responsibilities of these spiritual leaders. From his early experiences in the military to his calling to the priesthood and eventual consecration as a bishop, Bishop Coffey’s story is both inspiring and enlightening.

Throughout the conversation, Mike and Alicia engage Bishop Coffey in a wide-ranging discussion that touches on topics such as the challenges facing the Church, the importance of prayer and discernment in leadership, and the role of bishops in shepherding their flocks through turbulent times.

Whether you’re a devout Catholic seeking a deeper understanding of the Church’s hierarchy or simply curious about the journey of bishops, this episode offers a fascinating glimpse into the life and ministry of one of the Church’s spiritual leaders.

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MFP 274: Leaving a Legacy of Faith

“By acting in the world as earthly fathers, we begin to see the world through the eyes of the Heavenly Father and that includes seeing ourselves through the eyes of the Father.”

In this faith-filled episode of the Messy Family Podcast, Mike and Alicia discuss the significance of authenticity, the power of family traditions, and the impact of a vibrant faith community. Whether you’re a seasoned parent or just starting your family journey, this episode promises valuable insights and practical tools for nurturing a legacy of faith that will endure for generations to come.

Tune in to the Messy Family Project podcast today and discover how to build a legacy of faith that withstands the test of time. Don’t miss out on this inspiring conversation that will empower you to embrace your role as a faith-filled parent and create a lasting impact on your family’s spiritual journey.

 

Key Takeaways

  1. To pass on the faith to our children, we need to first embrace the process of our own ongoing conversion. 
  2. Moms and dads need to take up the mantle of spiritual leadership with confidence and humility.  This role has been given to you by God!
  3. The culture of your home speaks to your children more powerfully than any written word.  Be intentional about having it communicate your Catholic values. 
  4. Take the time to intentionally evangelize your children and introduce them to the person of Jesus.

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MFP 273: MPF 273: Tools for Family Bonding – an Interview with the Marianist Family Retreat Center

“The experience of being told by your family that you are good, loved, forgiven and worth committing to, as well as the experience of telling your family the same are gifts to be treasured.”

Marianist Family Retreat Center Core Beliefs

In this episode of the podcast, we delve into the heart of family bonding and spiritual growth with an enlightening interview with the Marianist Family. Guided by the profound core beliefs of the Marianist Family Retreat Ministry, our guests share invaluable insights into strengthening familial ties, fostering communication, and embracing forgiveness and commitment within the family unit.

 

Key Takeaways

  • Discover the transformative power of affirming familial love and forgiveness.
  • Embrace the teachings of Mary as a model for nurturing familial spirituality.
  • Explore the concept of discipleship of equals and its impact on family ministry.
  • Learn how community plays a vital role in nurturing familial bonds and spiritual growth.
  • Uncover the structured and unstructured opportunities for growth within the Marianist Family Retreat Program.
  • Embrace the practice of prayer and discernment in opening oneself to the gifts of the Holy Spirit within the family context.

Couple Discussion Questions

  1. How can we incorporate the teachings of Mary into our family dynamics?
  2. Reflecting on the pillars of the Marianist Family Retreats, which aspect do we feel is most crucial for our family’s growth?
  3. How can we create a balance between structured and unstructured family time to nurture spiritual growth?
  4. In what ways can we foster a sense of community within our family and extend it to the larger community?
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MFP 272: MPF 272: Disciplining Children without Shame

For a child to learn how to love, they need to first be loved.

Key Takeaways

  • We need to parent the way God fathers us, free of emotion and manipulation

  • Discipline starts with relationship because its all about forming their hearts.

  • We need to teach children how to repair and restore relationships when they do the wrong thing. 

 

Couple Discussion Questions

  1. In our childhoods have we experienced shame from our parents or those in authority?  How did that make me feel?

  2. Do we imitate those behaviors in our parenting?

  3. How can we reflect God the Father more in our formation of our children?

  4. Consider one of your children in need of formation.  What is the best way to reach their heart?

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MFP271: Why an Intentional Culture is Essential

Your family culture is the operating system in your home.  It communicates to your children more powerfully than any written word.

Family culture is something that we are passionate about in this ministry! We believe that this is the secret weapon of the Catholic family and something that every mom and dad needs to be very intentional about. The culture within the home is like the operating system in your family and it communicates more powerfully than any written word. In this episode we give the foundations of family culture and explain why it’s important. Because there is so much to cover, we only get to talk about the spiritual life of the home and what that means for the children. This is a re-release of a previous episode, but the information is timeless and the principles are the foundation of many of our courses and guides.

 

Key Takeaways

  • Parents don’t create a culture, they steward it.  All the members of the family participate. 
  • Family Culture is the unspoken system that binds your family together and communicates your expectations, beliefs, and values more powerfully than any written word.  
  • Your culture must be stronger and more attractive than the secular culture and it must communicate more powerfully.
  • A wise family learns how to manage the urgent and prioritize the important.
  • The spiritual life of your home needs to be the foundation of your culture because it is our connection to God that gives meaning to our lives.

 

Couple Discussion Questions

  1. There is a culture in our home right now.  What is this culture communicating to our children? 
  2. What are some values that we want our children to learn from our culture?  How can we do this better? 
  3. What are the Urgent things in our life that we need to manage better? 
  4. What are the Important things that we are putting off?

 

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MFP 270: Part 2 of Headship – Navigating the Beautiful Chaos of Marriage

Men need to give in order to receive. Women need to receive in order to give.

Embark on the second part of the compelling discussion with Mike and Alicia Hernon on The Messy Family Podcast. In this captivating follow-up to the previous episode, “Headship – Do Wives Have to Obey?” the Hernons dive even deeper into the nuances of marital dynamics and the concept of headship.

As the Lenten season approaches, the Hernons extend an invitation to their audience, encouraging participation in the Cana 90 Lenten program designed for couples. Reflecting on the importance of embracing one’s vocation, the conversation seamlessly picks up from the last episode, addressing the complexities and challenges faced by couples in different stages of marriage.

Drawing inspiration from the teachings of John Paul II, the Hernons continue to explore the delicate balance of giving and receiving in the context of marriage. They delve into the significance of wives receiving love and husbands actively leading, debunking misconceptions and offering practical insights for couples striving for a harmonious partnership.

Mike and Alicia share personal anecdotes and observations from their 30 years of marriage, providing a unique perspective on the dance of collaboration within marriage. The episode unfolds as a profound exploration of the beauty found in the messy and intricate tapestry of family life. Whether you’ve just joined the Messy Family Project community or have been a dedicated listener, this episode promises to deepen your understanding of headship and inspire intentional, loving partnerships.

Subscribe now to The Messy Family Project Podcast and join a community that embraces both the challenges and beauty of family life.

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