MFP 256: Growing Your Family Culture – Questions Answered

We need to take a sacramental view of ordinary life – Mike and Alicia Hernon

We often say that family culture is the secret weapon of Catholic families.  Why is this?  Because the culture within your home is more powerful than any written word.  It communicates expectations, beliefs, and values to everyone in the family.  In this podcast, we tackle some questions that listeners have sent into us about the culture within their homes. We answer questions like “what do I do about kids always fighting?”, “how do I take care of individual kids in a big family?”, “how do we handle birthdays?”, and “Help! I feel like I’m drowning!” (which isn’t exactly a question, but it is a common email we get!).  In all of these situations, the issue comes back again and again to the culture you are fostering within your home.  When you see all that you do in light of that, all the other issues will fall into place.  Listen in and learn about this powerful tool that every parent should develop.  

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Key Takeaways:

  • The culture within your home trains your children on how to wait, how to take turns, and how to play together. 
  • If community is a value to your and your spouse, you need to find a way to make it work for both of you. 
  • Part of your family culture is how you celebrate birthdays, significant days for your child, and holidays.  Find what works for your family and use that ritual to communicate to your children how important they are to you. 
  • When you have a child who is hard to love, the first question to ask is “What is it in ME that is making it hard to love this child?  How do I need to change?”
  • When you are drowning, get scuba certified.  Yes, having children who are all very young is a challenging time, but you can learn some incredible lessons through this time if you embrace it and receive God’s grace through it all.  You will be stronger in the end! 

Couple Discussion:

  • What is our family culture communicating to our individual children? 
  • How are we communicating about the commitments we are making outside of our family? 
  • Do we have our priorities right?  Are we putting in place our identity first as a daughter or son of God, then as a husband or wife, and then as a mom or dad, and last everything else?  How can we live this out more effectively? 

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