“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”

Matthew 11:28

Motherhood changes everything—and sometimes that transformation feels less like a beautiful makeover and more like someone rearranged your whole life while you were trying to sleep. In this honest, hopeful episode, Alicia and guest host Katie Gamboa explore the tension between self-care and sacrificial love. How do mothers give generously without running on empty? We also challenge today’s impossible expectations: work, prepare healthy meals, raise happy children, keep the house running, and look effortlessly radiant while doing it all. Spoiler alert: no one was meant to mother alone.

From postpartum support and marriage to community, identity, and grace, this conversation offers encouragement for every mom who has wondered, “Will I ever feel like myself again?” Perhaps the invitation isn’t to recover the old you, but to become even more fully yourself—messy, loved, stretched, and strengthened by God.  So grab your coffee (reheated for the third time), take a breath, and listen in. You were made to give love—but you were also made to receive care. Let’s discover how both can beautifully belong together.

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MFP 399: Motherhood – Losing Yourself or Becoming Yourself?

Key Takeaways

• The transition to being a mom is huge – don’t underestimate how hard it can be and it’s ok to be honest about it. 

• Sacrificial love is not the opposite of self-care.  You need to care for yourself in order to love sacrificially. 

• Don’t feel guilty about loosening the “standards” you set for yourself if it helps you to get through the day.

• Never forget that you were made for this, but you do need to support your body and heart so you can do what you were made to do. 

Couple Discussion Questions

• How has being a mother changed you and how you think of yourself?  Of your body?  Of our marriage?  

• How can we work together to support our unique roles knowing what a change this has been?

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“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Proverbs 22:6

With so many sports, clubs, arts programs, school choices, and community activities available, how can parents help their children discover their gifts without letting a packed schedule take over family life? Rather than trying to produce a generically successful child, parents are invited to become students of the unique children God has entrusted to them. In this podcast, we encourage parents to give their kids room to try new things, change direction, fail, and discover what fits—because eliminating an option can be just as valuable as finding a passion.  We’ll also discuss how to name and affirm gifts, cultivate strengths while managing weaknesses, and choose activities and education that suit both the child and the family’s season and capacity. You’ll hear why faith, marriage, and family relationships must remain more important than performance, and how coaches, teachers, mentors, and relatives can help children see themselves more clearly. Listen in for encouragement to see, know, bless, and guide the child right in front of you.

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MFP 398: Discovering Your Child’s Unique Gifts

Key Takeaways

• Observe before directing. Parents become students of their children: watching what draws them, where they lose track of time, what others notice, and what patterns persist. 

• Give kids lots of experiences.  Activities, arts, sports, clubs, work, and educational settings function as laboratories in which children discover what fits and what does not. Its ok to try something and not like it! 

• Children often experience their own gifts as “normal.” Parents help form identity by calling out the gold they see and, ultimately, blessing the child with words that communicate: I see you.

• Keep giftedness inside the right hierarchy. Faith, marriage, and family relationships come before performance. Activities and educational opportunities must serve family culture rather than become the family’s organizing principle. 

• Widen the circle of adults who can see the child. Coaches, teachers, relatives, mentors, and family friends can confirm gifts parents see – or reveal gifts parents miss. This becomes especially important in adolescence. 

• Transfer ownership as the child matures. Young children receive observation and affirmation from parents; adolescents increasingly reflect on their own strengths, make choices, and learn where they fit in the wider world. 

Couple Discussion Questions

• Are the activities our children participate in developing their natural gifts?  

• Can we observe our children, compare notes, and decide how to help them know themselves better? 

Resources

• Join us for the Lead Like a Dad Webinar!

• Form a Women Wonderfully Made Group and take the course with friends!

“The Holy Rosary, by age-old tradition, has shown itself particularly effective as a prayer which brings the family together.”

St. John Paul II, Rosarium Virginis Mariae, no. 41

Have you ever gathered the family to pray the Rosary—and wondered if all the fidgeting, correcting, and frustration were helping your children love prayer or simply teaching them to endure it?

In this episode, we take an honest look at praying the Rosary with kids. Perseverance matters, but so do creativity, patience, and sensitivity to the needs of your particular family. The goal is not merely to finish five decades or imitate another Catholic household. It is to form children who know that prayer is a place of peace, connection, and love—and who will reach for the Rosary throughout their lives.

We explore why this ancient prayer is so powerful: it is scriptural, meditative, intercessory, communal, and contemplative. It is also a “graduated” prayer that can be entered into by a small child, a busy parent, or a contemplative saint. We share practical ideas for making it part of real family life, from praying one decade or taking a walking Rosary to using pictures, Scripture, candles, audio recordings, car rides, and bedtime routines.

Your family Rosary does not have to look perfect to bear fruit. Begin small, make room for children to be children, and create an atmosphere they will remember with affection. Give them more than a completed Rosary—give them a lifelong prayer of their own.

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MFP 397: The No-Resentment Rosary

Key Takeaways

1. Love is the goal. The deeper purpose is not completing the Rosary but helping children develop a lifelong love of prayer.
2. Discern what serves your family. Your Rosary does not need to look like anyone else’s. Consider your children’s ages, personalities, and needs.
3. Begin small and get creative. Try one decade, a walking Rosary, sacred images, Scripture, car rides, or bedtime prayer.
4. Create an atmosphere of peace. Children may forget what you said, but they will remember how family prayer felt.
5. Lead through witness. Praying as a couple and allowing your children to see that you treasure the Rosary can be powerful formation.

Couple Discussion Questions 

1. Is the way we currently pray helping our children love prayer—or merely teaching them to endure it?
2. What practical change could make our family Rosary more peaceful, engaging, and appropriate for our children’s current ages?
3. How can we strengthen our own prayer life as a couple so our children encounter the Rosary as something we genuinely love?

Resources

• Lead like a Dad Waitlist
• Messy Family Rosary App
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  • Android

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“Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.”

James Clear

Is your family running on good routines—or on lost shoes, late-night permission slips, and someone yelling, “Where is your backpack?” If summer loosened every habit in your house, this episode is your invitation to hit the family reset button.

We’re talking honestly about the routines that shape family culture, whether we choose them or simply fall into them. Bedtimes, chores, prayer, screens, school mornings, and family meals don’t just organize the day; over time, they help determine who we become.

We’ll show you how to assess three essential areas of family life: the spiritual life of your home, your marriage, and the formation of your children. Then we’ll get practical about turning vague hopes like “we should pray more” or “the kids need to help” into habits your real family can actually follow.

Using four principles from *Atomic Habits*, we’ll explore how to make good routines obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfying. Expect chore charts, backpack stations, bedtime prayer, brownies after the Rosary, and our hard-earned rule for getting a large family out the door without losing everyone’s sanctification.

This isn’t about creating an Instagram-perfect household. It’s about reducing chaos, restoring connection, and building a home where everyone knows they belong.

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MFP 396: The Great Family Reboot

Key Takeaways

A fall family reset has four parts:

1. Assess: Honestly examine your family culture.

2. Focus: Choose the pain point that needs the most attention.

3. Create a habit: Build a practical system around the change.

4. Find accountability: Invite your spouse to support you.

You do not need to overhaul your entire family this fall. Choose one meaningful change that will help you move from reacting moment by moment to living on purpose.

Couple Discussion Questions

• What are our biggest pain points right now that we need to change?

• What is our best habit that we can build on?

Resources

• Speaking Request page

• Events page

• www.catholiccouplesgetaway.com

We have prepared this Fall Family Reset for you to print off and work through with your spouse and family.

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“Family life is full of competing needs, responsibilities, and relationships. And sometimes there isn’t one obvious “right” answer.”

In this listener questions episode, Mike, Alicia, and Katie tackle some of the complicated situations real families are facing: What should a mom do when her teenage son starts turning to Dad instead of her? How do you discern where your family should live? Should you move if your spouse is unhappy but your children are thriving? How do you honor your parents while putting your spouse first? They also discuss life with a large family in a small house, sibling bickering, extracurriculars, protecting family dinners, and caring for aging parents from far away. Through all of these questions runs one important truth: you can’t eliminate every tension or make everyone happy. The goal is to discern what God is asking of you, protect the unity of your marriage, and confidently lead the family He has entrusted to you.

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Who Comes First? Navigating the Hard Choices of Family Life

Key Takeaways

• You can’t eliminate every family tension or please everyone — the goal is discernment, not perfection
• A teenage son turning to Dad more isn’t rejection of Mom; it’s a normal shift worth understanding, not fighting
• Deciding where to live means weighing whose flourishing matters most, not just going with the “thriving” spouse or child by default
• Protecting your marriage’s unity comes before keeping every family member individually happy
• “Leaving and cleaving” doesn’t mean cutting off parents — it means your spouse becomes the primary loyalty
• Small houses and big families aren’t a problem to solve so much as a constraint to work within creatively 
• Sibling bickering and packed activity schedules both call for intentional limits, not just endurance
• Family dinners need active protection against the pull of sports and extracurriculars
• Caring for aging parents from a distance requires its own kind of discernment and boundaries

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“Catholic couples don’t discern if they should have a child, they discern if they should postpone pregnancy. These are two different conversations. ”

This re-release of a 2015 episode presents Natural Family Planning as more than a technique: it’s a way of living that contrasts sharply with a culture focused on control and convenience. We explore how modern society tends to “engineer” outcomes, even in areas like fertility, while NFP invites couples to cooperate with the natural design of the body, integrating both faith and science. This approach requires intentional communication, shared decision-making, and a willingness to embrace sacrifice, particularly through periodic abstinence. Rather than seeing these challenges as burdens, we can view them as opportunities for growth in virtue, deeper unity, and trust in God.

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NFP- Love, Life, and Learning Self-Control

Key Takeaways

• Catholic teaching on marriage holds love and life together.

  • Marriage is both unitive and procreative, meaning sex is meant to express love between spouses while remaining open to the possibility of new life.

• Humanae Vitae was not just a rule, but a prophetic warning.

  • The Church warned that widespread acceptance of contraception would lead to moral decline, marital infidelity, loss of respect for women, abuse of power, and a distorted sense of control over the human body.

• Responsible parenthood requires prayerful discernment, not pressure or guilt.

  • Couples are called to use reason, wisdom, Church teaching, and honest prayer to discern whether they are ready for another child, taking into account physical, emotional, psychological, economic, and family circumstances.

• Natural Family Planning can be hard, but it can also form couples in love and self-gift.

  • NFP requires discipline, communication, patience, and sacrifice. It can bring struggles, especially around affection, desire, and misunderstanding, but it also invites spouses to love each other beyond physical intimacy alone.

• Children are a blessing, not a burden or a lifestyle accessory.

  • While raising children is demanding, they are one of the greatest fruits of marriage. They change, challenge, and sanctify parents, and families should not measure children only by cost, convenience, or cultural expectations.

Couple Discussion Questions

• Do you feel like we communicate openly about family size, timing, and fertility decisions?

• How do you experience the “sacrifice” aspect of NFP?

• What kind of family culture do we want to build around life, children, and generosity?

• How can we better support each other during more difficult seasons?

Resources

• MFP 158: Oh Baby! How Many Babies Should We Have?

• Humanae Vitae

• USCCB on Natural Family Planning

• Dr. Janet Smith

• Couple to Couple League

• NaProTechnology (Creighton Model of NFP)

• Theology of the Body Institute

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